One of my favorite parenting books is by Joanne Deak called "GIRLS WILL BE GIRLS" Raising Confident and Courageous Daughters.
Now this may be a book written for and about Girls but having only ONE girl I find the material is quite universal.
Here are the highlights I would like to share:
-LOVE WITH NO STRINGS ATTACHED
Basically this is sending the message we all send all the time, I love you.....however making sure it is not attached to an action
-ALLOW AND ACCEPT A RANGE OF BEHAVIOR
-DONT SEE YOUR CHILD AS AN EXTENTION OF YOU, OR AS A POSSESSION
-DONT SET THE MOTIVATION TRAP
Using your connection with a child or-your love-to premeditatedly reinforce pleasing behavior can be insidious in the long run.
I DO, THEREFORE I AM
These are three very important points you want your children to feel but how?
ATHLETIC DOING, strong bodies , strong minds.......CREATIVE DOING.....mind over Matters...CONNECTED DOING...The feeling of power and contricution and Partnership. Other than Self experiences....
*ENGAGING IN THE WORLD AT LARGE
Enjoy this book and enjoy your day of parenting!