Sunday, April 18, 2010
on Dinner
What do they want to eat? It’s important to have the dinnertime routine all set out. We have the beautiful dinner table all set, we have games at the ready, the candles lit, and music playing. We also have a chart of what needs to be done at the table. And, most importantly, we are all sitting there together! Now it’s all about the food!
My children are used to a set menu (a home-cooked one, of course), which is usually breaded meat or fish, pan-seared and then put in the oven to bake after being lightly browned. At my house, we bake the meat for about 20 minutes at 400°F, and we cook enough to provide one full portion each for the four older kids and one more cut in to cubes for the younger two. For our fish dinners we use either salmon or breaded cod, or alternatively any white fish, and for the younger kids we introduce healthy minced fish sticks. A great choice for the younger ones!
When we serve rice, the choices are seemingly endless - from Rice-A-Roni to brown rice, Uncle Ben’s white to Mexican rice, or a mixture of two or more varieties. Sometimes, couscous makes a delicious and welcome alternative. Choices of pasta are equally multitudinous, which varieties of colors and shapes, as well as decisions about what sauce to serve and whether to use butter or oil in the cooking process. I’m a very lucky mom when it comes to the vegetable department – my kids love them all! Corn and broccoli are particularly popular choices in my home, as well as asparagus, string beans and snow peas. Cold veggies are also on the table every night, including carrots and celery. Just as important are carbohydrates, to help give those kids all that energy! Every night the table’s centerpiece is a basket of fresh bread rolls or croissants.
The children have other voiced their opinions that they think they need a change in the menu, that they are being served the same meal time and time again and they want something new and different. Ask (politely) and you shall receive! We went around the neighborhood and picked up about 20 menus in order to find some new ideas and diversify the variety of meals we serve in our home. I also am lucky enough to have some great friends who were happy to share some of their delicious yet easy-to-make culinary secrets, all of which I am very eager to try out. Unfortunately, so far, the kids have been less than welcoming to the new menu items that have been added to the routine of late.
Today’s foray into new cuisine took on a Spanish flavor, and consisted of pork ribs, dough balls filled with meat and potatoes, and pork rinds. Things were already a bit shaking at the dinner table, however it was my earnest introduction of blood sausage that saw me booed out of the room. The night before was an exploration of Greek cuisine with a do-it-yourself twist, with a make-your-own gyro station set up, complete with sliced lamb, salad, yogurt, sauce, and feta, as well as a side of potatoes and broccoli. Unfortunately like its Spanish counterpart, this meal plan was met with a resounding “boo!” by the kids. The day before this was of Indian fare: sliced chicken soaked in delicious broth with choices of dipping sauces from orange to tandoori to sour cream, covering as many bases as possible. I handed out marshmallow skewers for the dipping process. Once again, a ho-hum response was all I got. The night before this was American night, and I cooked a favorite chicken, rack of ribs and mashed potatoes, pita breads, and corn on the cob. Yet, even this homegrown hero of a meal failed to impress the discriminating palettes of my apparently soon-to-be-food-critic lot of children.
So, the question remains: why did all these diverse menus fail to tickle my children’s fancies? After all, the children asked for variety and that’s exactly what was offered.
Monday, I will try something new! I have met a fabulous girl who is studying culinary arts, comes from a large family and is excited to try out her meals on us. I have managed to calculate the amount of money I spend on a take in delivery vs someone to help me sort out the same fare and grocery bill. And at the same time I am helping someone who happens to live 5 blocks from my house and can use the extra money after work! Where did I find her? Craigs List!
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
On Constipation
They want to say it often, does it make us so uncomfortable?
Children have constipation, is it constantly around raising six children at the same time.
LISTEN MOMS, it goes away as the children grow and their diets and needs are becoming more balanced. My thirteen Year old has Fruit Loops and Fiber Bran Cereal almost every night with a glass of milk.
Because I do too !
I strongly believe diets are copies and presented to our children, we can not complain about this.
I know it’s so easy to just order chicken nuggets and French fries when you are out, or make the favorites there will be NO COMPLAINTS about when you are in.
Fiber in the diet….and you in the diet teaching the children about how to take care of their bodies and help themselves go to the bathroom.
My four year old that still drinks endless bottles of milk, REGULAR MILK he said, not parmalat! (That’s because I can’t keep enough in the house ever!) Do you think he is not constipated?
On the counter in my kitchen, is the FIBER CHOICE chewable tablets that taste like sweat tarts and are sold are DUANE READE, safe for kids.
When they know they have control over their bodies, they will understand this decision and make good choices understanding the control over their bodies that they have!
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
DINNER TIME What do they want to eat ?
We have the beautiful dinner table ready !
We have the games, candles and music playing !
We have the chart of what needs to happen at the table
and we are all there !
Now its about the food ????
The children are used to a MENU (THAT I COOK) which is usually
Meat or Fish Meat which is breaded, pan seared and then put to bake after being
lightly browned. We bake at 400 for about 20 minutes and thats
one full portion for the four older kids, and one more cut into cubes for
the younger two
Fish is Salmon, or breaded cod, or many other choices of white style
fish and for the younger kids we introduce healthy minced fish sticks !
Rice or Pasta Here we can go with a variety of rices, from rice a roni, to cousous,
brown steamed, uncle bens white, mexican rice, tons of rices or
Pastas, also many choices with many choices of sauces, alfredo, red,pink
butter, oil, and so on
Vegetable Any vegetable, the kids eat them all...Corn and Brocolli more than others
Aparagus, string breans, snow peas, etc...
Cold veges are on the table every night which include carrots and celery !
We always have a basket of fresh baked bread rolls, or croissants !
The children have voiced their opinions that they need a change. That its the same meal
and they want something different!
So different, they have gotten. We went around the neighborhood and picked up
about 20 menus to get some variety of foods into our house. I also have some great friends
who have some great simple recipies which I am ready to try out......only the kids have not been that welcoming of the new foods.
Today was pork ribs, Dough balls filled with meat and potatoes and pork rinds...I introduced blood sausage for effect and I was booed out of the dining room. (SPANISH FOOD)
The day before was Make your Own Gyro;s with lamb meat sliced, salad, yogurt sauce, salad with feta and baked potatoes on the sides with brocolli !! (GREEK FOOD) Another Big Boo
The day before was sliced chicken soaked in broth with dipping sauces from orange chicken
to tandori, to sour cream, (INDIAN) ...I handed out marshmellow skwers for the dipping process
The day before that was a neighborhood favorite Chirpin Chicken, Rack of ribs and mashed potatoes, pita breads for everyone and corn on the cob sticks. (AMERICAN)
Why did these meals not go over well. The children asked for variety and it was offered.
I will photostat all the menus I collected and hand them out to the children with different color highlighter pens. I will ask them to hight light the meals that they would eat. I will go over the same with the younger children and come up with some variety that they have pre agreed to at least taste !
Today I ran into a CORNER BAKERY which happened to me next to my docters office
and picked up 5 slices of CHICKEN MEATLOAF, a pound of roasted potatoes, garlic spring beans and roasted carrots, cornbread, woopie cakes one for each. A starter of Tomato Leak Soup which I will float a ball of sour cream in and serve in a margerita glass with a melba toast!
Have fun with these dinner ideas !
Monday, March 8, 2010
on FOOD SHOPPING
Raising six children in New York City there is quite a variety and opportunities to keep the house filled with the most amazing of treats! Within walking distance from my house are some of the most amazing bakeries, butchers, fruit markets, prepared foods.
The one stop shop for deserts is DEAN AND DELUCA right on 85th and Madison. They collect and sell the best of New York Finest Bakeries all under one roof!
That’s deserts……..But what about the food items! Surely feeding eight people Breakfast and Dinner Daily is a great fete. DEAN AND DELUCA is one of my favorite morning stops. With
smiling faces serving cappachinos and fresh fruits, vegtables, chocolates, cookies, cakes, calling my name....and thats just on one side. I can taste the lunch soup special, and get my own favorite suishi pieces packed up, order up a nice flower arrangement while I am waiting for the friendly attendants to packup some dinner sides!
We visit the supermarket daily for milk, bread, eggs and juice and make sure to include in those visits the fruits and vegetables in small amounts! We visit the supermarkets or butchers for fresh poultry, fish or beef or have DEAN AND DELUCA pre package small meats that the older children can manage themselves to cook.
For items such as Tide, Paper Towels, Plastic Bags, Garbage bags, fruit rolls ups,macaroni boxes, microwave popcorn, coffee cups, napkins, cascade, paper plates,batteries,juice boxes, cases of soups we send a shopper to COSTCO !
In New York City there is a service for anything! For a fee and a clearly written list there is a COSTCO SHOPPING SERVICE.A Women with a VAN who goes shopping for you.
I have already calculated that my savings on purchasing just these items alone in bulk still gives me a savings over the fee. In my case, I have learned to hide the extra 5 boxes of pasta up above the cabinets or behind the pots and pans and only put out the other 7 boxes in the cabinets !
It’s a lot easier to refill from your own house them to refill from the supermarket or have a larger shopping daily!
I work with Poland Spring Deliver service as they have a set schedule for free once a month they deliver water and ice tea and palmer lemonade and ice tea to the house. That service is free
I work with CVS stores locally who deliver 12 oz water bottles monthly for about 20 cents a bottle which we keep in baskets in the children’s rooms and playroom so that friends, visiting moms, nannies, guests, and our kids can always grab and drink a bottle of water that they can finish !
I work with Nespresso who delivers their cups monthly, as well as GEVALIA both who offer their delivery services for free.
I work with one SUPERMARKET for my major shopping’s. How you work with one supermarket is you introduce yourself to the girls who run the customer service desk. You let them know this is your big shopping day and ask where you can leave your carts after you fill them up so they can stay safe. Everyone knows the NYC carts are tiny because the aisles are tiny. Eventually the customer service people will be happy to begin ringing up your carts while you continue to shop as a service. This is also especially nice as you don’t have to unload!
Enjoy the tips on food shopping and enjoy your day!
Thursday, March 4, 2010
DINNER TIME What do U expect?
What do you expect. I have decided to take a trip to staples and map out exactly
what I expect on a gold sign which stands against the piano music stand. The Piano
sits in the dining room and is a great holder for the dinner table cards, the dinner
table manners books and now the EXPECTATION POSTER.
*ALL SIX CHILDREN ARE EXPECTED TO COME TO THE TABLE
In our house we all know that Dinner time is early and
all the children are reminded every day that dinner time is
coming. To help with the hungry coming home from school
snacking I make sure to put out string beans, carrots and
bananas and grapes on the kitchen counter. Sure the Oreo
in the cabinet is what they are seeking but I do get some pickers
* ALL SIX CHILDREN SHARE WHAT THEY FEEL GRATEFUL FOR
The message of being grateful and thankful is one that will
come up a lot in many pages of our blog. Here is where we ask
the children to appreciate either silently or out loud something
they are thankful for this week, this day or the moment
They sound a bit like this:
*I am thankful that my brother is staying at school late for sports
*I am thankful mom did woodworking with me at school today
*I am thankful we raised a lot of money for the seeing eye dog
from our Kindergarten Bake Sale
*I am thankful we are gonna see Taylor Swift soon, think we can
go backstage?
*I am thankful I am not hungry cause "Is this all you know how
to cook, mom?"
and later.......
*I am thankful there was no food left and I am getting Chinese
Food!
*YOU MUST ASK TO BE EXCUSED
This is the hardest one for me. The children live in their
own worlds for the most part and understanding that
they should remain at the table until everyone is finished
eating sometimes can seem like torture for them.
When the table is set just a bit nicer, the candles are lit,
and extra effort was put into the dinner, i am finding the
children are rising to the occassion. Sometimes they are
dancing to the occassion.
With the music playing in the dining room before anyone is
even called to dinner, children get a happy feeling, something
sounds nice in there......
Good luck with your dinner time signs and keep the music playing !
Friday, February 19, 2010
Dinner Time Activities
My formula is to keep trying to make it work......keep trying to make it nice,
happy, right....As long as you set your intention on a nice family dinner, it can
happen.
POPCORN PRAYER
My Thirteen year old introduced us to this last year. Whatever religion you are
this is a chance to share with your family that you are grateful for something.
At minimum you can just be grateful to be offered a meal (even if it is a yucky one)
Mostly I try to use this example of giving thanks as a chance to teach. As a chance for
children to understand that everyone can have something to be grateful for. I am grateful my teacher called on me today, I am grateful I had a playdate, I am grateful.. How it becamecalled a popcorn prayer is that one person starts and goes around the table and everyone pops something that they are grateful onto the prayer.
CANDLELIGHT DINNER
Bring candles to your family dinner table and dim the lights if you can, not too much
maybe just unscrew one or two lightbulbs in the room to make a statement. Light a few candles.
Kids see candles at the table for birthdays......they already know that it means an occassion,
the occassion is Dinner Time and you are important enough for me to make it a candle dinner night !
CONVERSATIONS CARDS
I love shopping for conversations cards. On top of the Piano in my dining room I have several boxes of conversational cards which I purchase mostly at book stores. Once a child can read youknow how much fun they have in reading fortune cookies. The concept is the same but the conversational cards ask obscure questions that spark silly answers......They make people laugh and I like to bring together six children and have laughter.
I take a card and place it on everyones plate. For the children who cant read, I read theirs to them in their ears and they laugh for me and share with their siblings !
ARTISTIC DINNER
How the table looks is important to kids.....as important as it is to you. When you arrive at
a table with flowers, with a nice folder paper napkin, with ice in the cups, it feels important!
THREE PLATES ARE BETTER THAN ONE
One of my greatest tricks to make take out/delivery food more exciting is offering up three desert plates in front of each child instead of one dinner plate. Usually deliveries like Chinese Food offer more than one choice for people to select and its fun to have more than one plate infront of you to seperate your food in!
Have Fun with your dinner activities and share with us a comment
of one of your favorite dinner routines !
DINNER TIME....THE TIME FOR DINNER
Dinner Time
Just the words "DINNER TIME" bring about so many emotions for a mom, especially for a mom raising six children in New York City.
Dinner Time is an ever changing time in our house. It is a time where a great deal of effort goes into so many different areas. Though the format which we share dinner time is ever changing,
there is ALWAYS dinner time.
What is dinner time..................the TIME for dinner
Here is where I must stand firm on the VALUES on what makes us a family on what is unwavering. WE MUST ALL JOIN TOGETHER AT A predesignated time which everyone
knows is going to happen every night.
Everyone in my house knows that we eat dinner early. This is an issue for some of the kids, one where I understood from them why we had to change our dinner time .When we started this school year in September we changed our dinner time to 5:30pm.
Last year we ate dinner at 4:45pm, in order to avoid the snacking rush which comes when the children arrive home from school. I thought that if I could get a good meal in to their bodies while they are super hungry then they can snack later.
I did get a good meal into their bodies and I still believe in this idea, however I compromised with my children. At 4:45pm the house was filled with playdates. I listened to several of the reasons why they did not want to have dinner at 4:45pm but the one that made most sense wasthey did not want to have dinner be a part of the time they spent with their friends.
I understood that it was unfair to my children to have their playdates all join our dinner table. I had a great deal of fun and so did the playdates. The friends of their friends for the most part enjoyed being part of a BIG FAMILY FULL OF KIDS dinner. Picture now if a sixth grader, third grader and fourth grader all had friends over my dinner table would be 10 people.
Set in a large dining room with platters of food to serve 10 people., NINE of those people
would be under the age of Fourteen.
One activity we would always do when friends joined us for dinner was everyone had to share something with everyone at the table, and the friends started. Sometimes we would pass a ketchup bottle as the microphone, who ever was holding the ketchup was allowed to talk and
it was passed around.
I hope that my children will remember their 4:45pm dinners last year and be proud of the
experiences we had with friends at the dinner table but times change, children get older and
you move dinner down to 5:30pm.